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As a child, you trained our parents to give you a change of apparel by crying. They determined that you were hungry when you made a lot of noise. You instructed them that you enjoyed something by laughing or smiling.
When you got your “other half”, you showed them that you were interested by demonstrating love and effection. If they felt the same, they would “return the feeling”. If they didn’t act the same way as you, you were taught to either switch your behavior or move on to someone else.
You have acted in this manner all of your life in one way or another. When someone would be offensive, you would either take it or not. By sitting there and not saying anything, you taught the offender that it was ok. When you would say something or get up and leave, you taught them that their actions were not appropriate.
Quite often this training has taken a lot of time and has been very subtle. It is not always explosive or noisy. It can sometimes be as little as a look or a word or two to complete a lesson.
So, what can you do about all the relationships that you have created that are inappropriate? Well, you can set about to retrain these people. You can start to show them how you really want to be treated.
Before you can begin an effective training session with others, you will need to learn to treat yourself the way you want. It is not possible to train someone else to treat you better than you treat yourself.
Also, for many us, we would not let our friends treat us as rotten as we treat ourselves.
For some people, this task will not be very difficult. But, for others, it will take a lot more effort to learn that you want to be treated differently.
When you get into a situation with one of your ’students’, think about how you want to be treated. If this is not happening, set about to instruct them. If someone is being abusive, you do not have to accept this action, you can walk out of the room. If someone is too “in your face”, you can place your hand on their chest and establish the amount of space you need.
By taking control of how you train others to treat you, you can begin to increase how happy you are with your actions.
