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Going back to saying “No” establishes a boundary to keep other peoples agenda from interfering with yours. You take back control over what you want to do and when. So many of us already find our lives jammed full of stuff to do, you’d think it would be easy to say no.
However, that two year old quickly learned that saying no got her negative results. On the other hand, saying yes got positive results. For this reason, many of us become people pleasers. Saying yes seems easier than saying no because we want to avoid the confrontation and anguish we experienced at that impressionable age.
Manipulative people are masters at this. They realize you are more comfortable with saying yes and capitalize on it.
Remember, no does not equal rejection. No is a valid and appropriate response. It does not mean you dislike the person. You’re simply refusing their current request.
Saying yes when you desire to day no damages your body with unnecessary stress. creates. You resent doing the task and the pent up resentment will manifest itself else in you. You may experience shoulder tension, headaches, energy drain and sleepless nights. If you would say no in the first place, you could avoid this creativity killer. Why make life any harder than it is already.
5 Easy Ways to Say No
1. Start Your Sentence With The Word, “No.”
It’s easier to keep the commitment to say, “No,” if it’s the first word out of your mouth.
No I’m sorry, my plate is full right now and I wouldn’t do a good job for you.
No, I’m not available (no need for details)
2. Let Me Think It Over
Maybe the request is something you want or need to do but you need time to make sure it will fit your schedule. Perhaps you’re not strong enough to say no right now. Ask for time to think it over. That way you can have time to mentally prepare yourself to say No. Remember, the decision is totally yours.
3. Just Say No
Thats right, Just Say No. You do not need to explain your reason. Although No, thank you may be appropriate in some situations.
We are so conditioned to give out information without thinking. You do not need to give the cashier or clerk your phone number or email address at checkout point. You can say NO
When a telemarketer disturbs your dinner, say no. Or better yet, let the phone ring unanswered.
Twenty years ago in the war on Drugs, you say Just Say No To Drugs all over the place, schools, billboard, commercials, subways, everyplace. Start your own No campaign. Using bright colored paper, you can print your own signs and put them up where you will see and read them.
4. Blame it On…
People blame each other all the time for their problems. So why take the pressure off yourself and blame somebody for why you must say no.
My doctor said I need to say NO to any additional work. (wonderful for safeguarding your personal time).
No, my accountant said I could not do that. (try this for an unreasonable customer demand)
Don’t use a name, unless that person really said it… keep the “blame” person generic.
5. Mimic a Parrot
Especially good for the “manipulator” attempting to guilt you into a yes and/or someone using the “wear them down” method
The conversation could go something like this:
“No, I can’t have coffee with you”
Well be back in 30 minutes.
“No, I can’t have coffee with you”
You deserve it. Look how many hours you worked already
“No, I can’t have coffee with you”
My Treat
“No, I can’t have coffee with you”
Learning to say “No” naturally takes practice. Start with saying “No” to something everyday.
